I’m talking about India, just Indian people. The life, culture here is entirely different from all other (so called ‘honeymoon’) counties like France, UK, USA, Switzerland.. The time we entered earth with a given motto, and the motto gets a u turn and not so long, ‘marriage’ will top our priority list. And its so cool when we get a partner who suits each other. But, the real life is something else.
Let me put this way. 95% of the citizens in India are getting into marriage; which may be a love marriage or like the typical ‘Indian style’. Frankly speaking, these terms have nothing to do with this write up.
Say, we bought a bike or a car. We, people tend to care it like a newly born, wash it, cover it, use it with utmost care. In due course, 99% of people realize the truth and they start behaving ‘normal’; start driving without losing a gutter in the road, many scars in the body, no wash for a year. And we literate beings know that these cars are ‘NON LIVING THINGS’ and cannot hurt them.
Don’t just wonder why I’m going the wrong way; but this example is the core of this write up. Also, this article is the real life for many of us. Again, lets get into the life of somebody:
– they reach their early 20’s find a ‘mandatory’ job, and when they ‘reach age’, they willingly or forcefully drown to a marriage proposal. – And everyone gets married. Start their life together. That’s the beginning of it. “The Fantasy Life”.
Children born after 90’s including me are very much in the hands of Internet, and yes PORN. Watching porn isn’t a crime for me, but it’s the one reason that makes life a fantasy and especially after marriage.
So, we just make our partner a sex toy rather a life companion. Just talking about the 90% of population. We hug them, punish them, use them.. my words maybe harsh but that’s what the offer is. or maybe each one expects in getting the pleasure of sex. And nobody is a culprit.
Moving on to the darkest and the real part. The life goes on and on, and then the state of ‘being busy’ arrives; with EGO’s and COMPLEX. Adding to the irony the ‘internal’ pressure of getting pregnant. or maybe he cannot be able to give sperms; The major cause of separation. Anything, maybe a skin disease can lead to separation. Physical beauty is more important for many. For those, this is the end. For others, they are parents now. BOOM reality hits again. They forget to speak, even fear to touch each other, come-on, no child can be born without parents touching each other.
Talking less, a distant sleep (2 bed sleep). What actually this babies are causing to their parents? Born to create a gap between parents? SHIT!!! Slowly no hug, no kiss, no talk.
Thinks for a minute and tell me isn’t this the real world? Why cant we accept the fact that ‘she is not just another person but she is myself’? Understanding the positives and negatives of each others life, protecting each other. This is actual life. And with a new born nothing has changed. And children shall be grown up seeing their parents loving each other.
Just look at her, into her eyes, like we first saw her. the one smile she presented, which actually made our day. The simple secret which we all forget after we cross the gate of marriage. Stop pretending ourselves moving along with life and live our lives with the most beautiful, precious thing we will ever get, a single time acquisition. As i said earlier, we just cannot treat them as our bike or cars we bought. The myth of having children is the duty of each man and women shall get substituted with the truth of everlasting love. If we love a person, we cannot just think a day without her. The concept of True Love is to be felt; the heavenly feeling.
I hold her hands when I see her struggle : I hug her when I feel her despair : I touch her hair, I kiss her cheeks and I hold her hands forever and ever. SHE, the only beautiful thing happened in my life. And we had sex, we are married and we are living our beautiful life.
PS: written on a mans viewpoint and some real incidents. pardon me if feelings are hurt.